The term âweaponized incompetenceâ has been thrown around a lot in the last few years on TikTok and it sounds complicated, but itâs really not. Itâs basically when a partner pretends to not know how to do something just to get out of having to do it. Weâre talking simple things like laundry and grocery shopping and straight guys tend to be the ones who do it a lot.
Cooper, a disability advocate and real estate investor in Los Angeles, recently went viral for showing just how common weaponized incompetence is. After seeing a guy on Twitter say he was âshockedâ that weaponized incompetence is real, she asked people to share their âmost absurdâ experiences with it. Most of them were from women and theyâre just as frustrating as youâd expect.
- âMy ex tried to tell me he didnât know how to use bleach in the washing machine. Iâm like you put it in the hole next to the detergent that says âbleach.â Heâs a software architect that makes 6 figures.â
- âI asked my ex (a 40 year old man whoâd been living on his own for 20 yrs) if heâd boil some water in the kettle for me. And he asked âHow do I do that?â To be clear, this was his house, his stove, and his kettle.â
- âMy husband: âI donât know where to put the dishes away. It's confusingâ Also my husband: âI know the location of all parts in my warehouse, my inventory is organized perfectly.ââ
- âI asked my ex to clean the tv stand/tv (dust). Showed him what to use. I look over & heâs using the wrong thing on the tv screen, which could do damage. I say something. He says âWell if I canât do it YOUR WAY I guess I just wonât do it anymore, since I canât do anything right.ââ
- âThe men in my family can fix engines, computers and do home repairs but act like breaking down a box for recycling is impossible.â
- âMy husband never cooked and never planned meals and went to the store. He moved out to live with his much younger girlfriend without so much as telling me or the kids, and the next week I ran into him at the grocery store pushing his cart and buying all the things!â
- âI PERSONALLY know someone that told their wife âIâm the type of person that will purposely mess up so that you wonât ask me again.â They are divorced today.â
Source:Â BuzzFeed
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